Okay. Now here’s the deal.
I’m a 13 year old middle school girl and ive never been grounded even for bad things so now my parents suddenly ground me because i don’t get along with my dad anymore.
my dad has been divorced to my mom since i was a toddler because they were always fighting and over the years they slowly got back together and i was alright with my dad and always happy to see him every other weekend so when my grandpa died (who i lived with) 2 years ago, my mom, 11 year old brother & i moved in with him and there still divorced though but it was all fine.
now my dad is a huge alcoholic which lead to most of the problems we had and sometimes hes gone too out of control with this. let’s just say the least is him singing along to the Rolling Stones at the top of his lungs at 3 am on a school day for me while cussing at me and my mom for the fun of it and the worst is whacking my handicapped mom in the eye getting her blind and me calling the police but he hurting me for calling. He screaming for the police to leave at 5 am and then trying to lock me and my brother in the house when we get to the car and my mom trying to leave while he smashing the car windows and having to wait in mcdonald’s parking lot until the next day for him to sober up.
Then days later he apologizes and soon enough gets mad drunk agian.
Long story short- i’m tired of continuing this cycle.
Now for maybe a week im ignoring him and he freaks out. not ketting me see my friends. and grounding me until ill make up with him.
this happend before and i give in and it happens agian. I DON’T want to give in AGAIN and let it happen AGAIN!
but my friends and i planned so long out halloween sleepover and everything and now he’s ruining that when my friend’s parents all ready made plans to so i can’t change that.
But he’s runing my life and my mom’s mad at me too because when i’m made at him he blames my mom and everything. But i don;t know what do do because this HAD happend like this before and i KNOW it’s just going to happen agian.
So what’s your adice to me? Thanks.
My dad also says i don’t respect him which is true but i belive that respect has to be earned. he can’t just treat me like a peice of trash and me be like "oh its okay" because it dosnt work like that.
He needs to change his ways for me to respect him agian.
like no calling me names such as a b*itch, as*shole, pice of sh*it. you egt the idea and not letting me do the things i want then if i say one little thing he dosn’t like he freaks out.
Example- I’m doing me homework and he’s across the room screaming his head of and i tell him "stop, im trying to do my homework" and his response is "oh my F*ing God! Don’t you dare say that sh*it agian!! and grounds me just when i was going to go to the mall with my friend which we were planning for a week.
I don’t think he’s fair. and I’m not going to keep getting the short end tof the stick like i always do.
We can’t leave, my mom can’t work because she has athritus, and barely has enough money toeven be here with buying foob for us and clothes at thrift shops because my dad dosnt give us a cent and this is out only choice with this abusive drunk.
Anyways, thanks for everyone who posted and since there are a few good people left, I will continue giving my opionions and personal experiences!